One step at a Time...
The 12 Steps to Lead with Love
We practice the 12 steps to Lead With Love.
That is how you overwrite bad habits and implement new ones and become the leader NOT the follower of your emotions.
Mindset...
1. Acknowledgement
The first step to getting help and improving your relationship is to admit that you need help once you have accepted this you are one step closer.
Is your relationship the way you want it to be? It’s never going to not require work but is it moving in the right direction? Or do you need help?
2. Surrender & Accept
STOP Trying to Fix Things!
The way to get what you want is Always Opposite.
After acknowledging you need help the next step is to forget all the problems you see and your need to fix them.
Accept things as they are, and stop your brain when it gets to fix it mode.
The hardest thing to do:
is nothing.
3. Trust his Love
Your husband loves you and that is constant. The only thing that is variable is your level of insecurity, it goes up and down with time since last connection ie. love making. Once you trust his love you stop arguing.
Trust is a choice.
It is a feeling.
You can choose at any time.
4. 100% Responsibility
Think of a great leader you admire, pretend you are him or her. No matter what causes conflict, respond by thinking and saying “I could have done better”. Never think or talk about what he should have done.
At first, responsibility is something we take.
Then it’s something we are.
5. Gratitude
Write down 10 things you love about your husband. Feel it as you write it down. Share it with someone. Say it out loud.
The best decision I ever made was to never say or think anything negative about my husband.
What we look for we find. We just tend to look at what we don’t want instead of what we do
Action...
6. Give to Get
Whatever you want give it.
You make love by giving it away. But give what is love to him. It may “just” be a blow job or silence that fills his heart with love. If you are not ready to give that, give him a cup of coffee, and a kind word.
You’ll be surprised at how easy it is to please your husband.
If you want him to pay more attention to your needs pay more attention to his.
You lead by example.
7. Self love & Peace
In order to have more love to give away, make more love inside you. By bringing your brain into an Alpha Brainwave state.
Find the thing that makes you feel peace and builds you up and go do that activity.
For me it’s swimming in the ocean all year around, exercising & coaching.
Come home to your partner filled up so no matter what he does you can meet him with love.
8. No Blaming
This is the most powerful habit to practice.
Do this for just 24 hours and you’ll likely see instant miracles in your relationship like my client Sarah.
Check out her story in my Masterclass # 1 Secret to Communication which no one else talks about here.
You step into your powers and your leadership here.
Just fail and re-commit to this one and wonders will occur.
9. No pity Party
STOP hosting your own pity party and experience a big liberation from your self.
Nip it in the bud before it hijacks your brain.
Once the party the voice of reason can not be heard.
Look carefully at the thoughts you allow into your mind.
And which you nurture with attention and conversations about being right.
Choice...
10. Honesty & Vulnerability
The longest journey of your life takes ONE second once you master the art of Honesty.
We always start out lying to ourselves. Not on purpose. It is a lie because we believe it.
Remember it’s honesty about yourself, not your husband.
The trick is to apply vulnerability otherwise honesty just becomes an excuse for bad behavior.
11. Love him or Leave him
This is NOT meant for you to leave him. But to realize you have a choice every day.
No one is forcing you to stay with him. Practise making this conscious choice daily.
Give it all you got, now that you are with him. Level up the way you show up, in the most important area of your life.
It’s not about your love relationship, but your relationship with love.
How do you nurture and care for love?
12. Fail & Recommit
Failure is the Key to Success!
Once you fail because you are honest about what YOU can do better, then you have a possibility to re-commit to i.e. No blaming and continue to create the love you want.
Get use to failing and just see it as an opportunity to consciously choose.
Failure just means you are practicing and the doing the work. You are busting through your limits.
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12 Steps Audio File
Get started today!
Start listening to each step with this audio file. Listen to one step every day for 7 days.
Every time you have a breakdown with your husband practise that ONE step. Then you move on to the next and listen to that for 7 days.
The audiofiles are from my 3-month Lead With Love Program sold for only 2,500 USD.
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12 Steps Audio File
The audio file is in a digital form and is meant to be used with my 3-month Lead with Love program.
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